The Daily Thread

[shruvvu]

I always try to have a child like mindset.
But since my college has started,
I've been thinking of some complicated stuff.
Which I don't like.
But if I don't behave like an adult by people's definition,
I'll lose them.
I've never been too sad about not having much friends.
But nowadays I feel like I should socialize more.
So I'll have to change myself according to the societal expectations here.


I don't know man, I just can't ignore what other people think about me nowadays.

[Froggychum]

Hm...
I can sort of relate, I think.

My advice is this: It sounds like you're having trouble fitting in with the people around you. There can be a lot of reasons for this, but only some of them might be under your control.

For example, if you are a very nerdy person who is interested in a lot of fictional media - but the social group around you are not interested in that sort of thing - you will have trouble finding common interests with them. In this case, I recommend looking elsewhere to find groups with similar interests.

Another example, if you are behaving in ways that negatively affect those around you, it might be a good idea to try and change your behaviors to be more appropriate. This is a natural part of maturing.

I don't know what kind of situation you're in specifically, though.
Overall, a good rule of thumb is to 'only change yourself if the changes are reasonable'. If peers are pressuring you into doing something you are uncomfortable doing, you don't need to succumb to that. However, if you are being socially ostracized for good reason (maybe you are often rude to others, or perhaps you have poor hygiene) then it is important to change these bad habits of yours in order to improve your social life, which is necessary for a positive mental wellbeing.

Hopefully this makes sense and is a bit helpful. Generally, I believe in doing whatever one wants to do, as long as it doesn't harm others. If you are at no fault, you don't need to change yourself - just find people who will accept you as you are. But, if you are doing something bad, you should try to change those behaviors because you will become a more pleasant person who many people will get along with.

Sorry if this is overstepping, it seemed like you were looking for advice but maybe you were just ranting. I mean no offense :O

[shruvvu]

I really needed some advice man, thank you.

I think I'm really overthinking about this.

I am doing what I love in college.

I am sad without any particular reason. The day I realized that, I stopped thinking about things I can't do anything about.

Maybe because I am transitioning into adulthood, I'm tensed about it.

Yeah I'm really overthinking about this.

[Froggychum]

I'm happy I could help and that you're feeling better
I can relate to overthinking. Sometimes it only causes stress.
I wonder, what are you doing in college? I'm interested if you care to share!

Being sad without any particular reason isn't invalid either. People don't need 'reasons' to have emotions, I think.

Personally, I'm not feeling great lately. Like you, I'm worried about school-related matters (university in my case). I don't really enjoy it at all, but it's something I really ought to do if I'm able (in Canada, a bachelor's degree is almost as fundamental/necessary as a high school diploma).
More than anything, I definitely struggle with work ethic. Most of my problems are of my own making - in a way. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just a lazy asshole, or if it's an issue stemming from anxiety or maybe ADHD? If I could know for sure, maybe I'd know what to do to fix myself.

Fortunately, I don't worry about the far future as much as I used to (like entering the workforce, which I feel fear, resentment and uncertainty towards). 'Not thinking about things you can't do anything about' is definitely a good motto for reducing stress.

I just wish I better knew how to 'be happy' in general. The ancients would probably tell me I have a naturally melancholic temperament or something. Then they'd tell me to drain my black bile and some halfwit ""doctor"" would perform medical experiments on my kidneys. I guess things could be worse, huh?

[gh0st]

Guys I’m trying so hard to match your shitposts in 20k but it’s like a muscle I haven’t worked out in a minute.

But nowadays I feel like I should socialize more.

That’s what asdfcon is for buddy.

Here’s my 2 cents. Have some grace for yourself. It’s good to meet people where they’re at, and sometimes you meet good people who you will build community with. It’s a trial and error over your entire life to meet and keep the people you want to be around.

My philosophy about making has always been it’s better to have a smaller group of genuinely interesting, nice, funny people than to play any sort of popularity game.

Happiness will follow when you have a community around you, big or small, that helps you self actualize and grow into your true self.

There’s also so much to stress out about in life that makes it difficult to feel happy. But there’s a lot to be grateful about too. Making a gratitude list is a good way to remind yourself of the reasons that things are good.

[Froggychum]

gratitude list is one of those things that sounds incredibly stupid but is actually a really good idea....

Also, I once again advise everyone that asdfcon is a terrible idea. You have been warned. (THIS IS NOT A THREAT)

[Greyson]

gratitude list is one of those things that sounds incredibly stupid but is actually a really good idea....

Also, I once again advise everyone that asdfcon is a terrible idea. You have been warned. (THIS IS NOT A THREAT)

Threat detected, lift your fists up, frogbuddy

[Froggychum]

hi greyson!
crying pathetically: nooo im just a little guy with glasses you wouldnt hit a little guy with glasses would you
*a hand breaks out of my trashbag, desperately clawing at its confinement*
*i pull out a gun and shoot it until it stops moving*
*red liquid leaks out of the bag*
looking around awkwardly before shamelessly continuing: im just a smol bean umu id never hurt a fly pls dont bully me

[atomtengeralattjaro]

it's funny because most psychos truly wouldn't hurt a fly - they have bigger fish to fry

[Froggychum]

are you saying being pescatarian makes you a psychopath? damn commies...

[Shai'tan]

Today I came home from 2 weeks holiday in Japan. It was amazing.

[atomtengeralattjaro]

Japan!
Nice.

[Froggychum]

glorious nihon land of the rising sun???
Poggers!

[gh0st]

I’m baaaaaaack
Today was a good day *cues ice cube*

[Froggychum]

welcome back mr gh0st

[atomtengeralattjaro]

good days + ice cube = bad day if you're the titanic and the ice cube is really big and happens to be in your way in just the wrong moment

[Froggychum]

god this is so true but people cant see it because theyre blind because i took their eyeballs

[atomtengeralattjaro]

hmm I wonder what your motivation might have been

*quickly sells meager eyeball collection before froggychum inevitably crashes the eyeball market by selling billions of eyeballs*

[Froggychum]

how did you know i was planning on selling them?? insider trading!??? conflict of interest!??? Woke ideology!???

[gh0st]

Eyeballs to the moon just check Wall Street bets
also I have some land to sell you in Florida